Moving elderly parents to nursing care homes is one of the most significant decisions of your life. There are major psychological, financial and social aspects that are to be considered including opinion of different family members.
Not everybody, including your parents will be happy with the decision and different people will have different opinion on the most appropriate procedure. Under such circumstances, it is always better to first understand the level of care your parents need and then decide if and when they should be admitted to care homes.
Include Everybody in Decision Making
Often, siblings bicker about the best way of caring for elderly parents. One of them may feel overburdened while another sibling may feel neglected. You parents too may have their own opinion about how they want to spend their golden years.
The best way is to sit down together and evaluate the options available. Don’t hesitate to ask the right questions such as who is going to help with personal care or who is going to stay the night regularly.
Such pertinent questions remove the emotional part and help everybody to focus on the core issues. Your parents too feel the gravity of the situation and may come up with their own suggestions. Depending on your parent’s physical and emotional needs, you may then decide about caring for them at home or admitting them to nursing care homes.
Understanding the Challenges your Parents Face
In order to understand the level of care your parents need, you must first understand the challenges they face as they age. Communication and the art of listening is extremely important as a lot of good decisions are lost if neither of you are ready to listen to each other. Parents must be made to understand (albeit gently) your limitations and you too must understand their fears and expectations.
Know what is Important to your Parents
Ask your parents to describe what is important to them as they age and how they plan to cope with the latest restrictions in their faculties. Often, parents are reluctant to move to care homes as this raises the possibility of them losing their independence. If possible, talk to your parents’ doctors or medical caregivers to get a clear idea about their physical and mental condition.
Based on such data, you can get a clear understanding of the level of care and attention your elderly parents will need. However, do remember that with elderly parents, the situation can turn for the worst any moment for any reason. Maybe it would be a wise decision to move them to a nursing care home after all even if none of you relish the idea.
When Caring Becomes too Overwhelming
It is always a joy and pleasure to care for elderly parents. Which child would not want to return the same love, care and attention that their parents showered on them during childhood? Sometimes however caring can become too overwhelming for comfort despite your best intentions.
For example, if your parent is suffering from a debilitating condition such as dementia, she/he will need 24x7x365 vigilance which is just not possible for you or your siblings. You may look for home caregivers but that would be quite expensive. In such cases, it is always prudent to move your parent to a care home.
By John A Denver
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